I once heard a sentence that stuck with me: „Honest is not he who says everything he means, but he who means everything he says“ (I don’t remember the exact wording, but that was the gist). This honesty in dealing with others is, for me, part of true life values and also part of the path to the new, because it requires a break with old habits and customs, with what others also expect as completely normal. For example: if someone tells me they are ill or that something difficult has happened to them, the first „normal,“ almost automatic reaction is to say: „I’m sorry.“ But it is not honest; it is not about me, and furthermore, I cannot be sorry if I know that everything that happens to someone, as a consequence of the laws of creation, is not only just but also absolutely necessary for experience or karma resolution. So I no longer say that; instead, I prefer to say that I wish the other person much strength. Such socially conventional phrases occur so often in everyday life that it takes a lot of vigilance to detect them and consciously refrain from using them. How do you experience it in your daily life?
Speaking consciously: no empty phrases, no adaptation for the sake of adaptation, but words that truly come from one’s own conviction. That resonates with me, as it is currently very much on my mind. When I succeed, I notice in everyday life that the conversation naturally changes. It becomes (mostly) „more real“ in the encounter. It requires inner awareness and also the courage, if necessary, to deviate from societal patterns of thinking and behavior. And yes, that is also The Path into the New.
This is again an interesting observation from Ms. Weisskopf. One could respond from several perspectives. I’ll take one of them. I work with elderly people. And since it is somehow ingrained that old age equals illness, they accept it as an inevitability belonging to their age. I am learning to adopt the right attitude in this regard. First and foremost, I had to accept that only when one continues to ask questions is one truly ready to receive further answers. But when a question arises, one must seize the opportunity. And then, often with humor, we can ‚initiate‘ with the client a beautiful, what I call, ‚continuing dialogue,‘ in which each participating party gets an opportunity for growth. The basis for this topic, however, is not primarily to seek methods for suppressing symptoms, but rather the question of why I, specifically, am confronted with this particular health issue. And it is necessary to be able to name it, to look for the root and its potential branches. Illness is a materialized symbolism that did not find a response within us until it was formed in matter, but smoldered in our inner world. And so it came in a form that can no longer be ignored. It forces one to react and re-evaluate. It compels one to an essential change in attitude. It forces one to act. Whoever opens themselves to this then has no problem accepting it as a gift. And such a person has understood its value. There is so much evidence of the true causes of illnesses that whoever starts searching simply cannot fail to find it.
…these socially conforming phrases are very common…I used them too. Now I’ll just be quiet for a while and see what happens…